No Regrets Here
This past month was my 50th high school reunion. I was honestly shocked when I saw this anniversary approaching. I just couldn’t fathom it had been 50 years. My high school has been celebrating reunions over the years, and I have not once attended. My feeling was that I never really belonged. There were many reasons I felt this way. I left before graduation, which is a very long story. But I also never felt part of the high school community. From my school years, I have kept in touch with one friend. She attended this year’s event, but I did not. I just couldn’t bring myself to go.
Scanning the photos from the reunion on social media, I was surprised what feelings it cultivated. First, I must say I only recognized a handful of people, and most of them because of their names. While pursuing the posts on the reunion pages, I kept feeling this nagging weight of something lost. Not from the people at the reunion but lost opportunities of things I may have missed out on. How life might have been if I had not made the choices I made.
It’s natural, especially as we grow older, to reflect on the past and wonder about the “what ifs.” Many people carry feelings of regret about opportunities not taken, paths not explored, or dreams set aside in the busyness of life. Perhaps you passed up a career move, didn’t travel when you had the chance, or let creative passions sit quietly in the background. These reflections can be heavy, and if left unchecked, they may lead to feelings of disappointment or even hopelessness. But it’s important to remember that while we cannot rewrite the past, we hold tremendous power in the present. Life continues to offer us fresh opportunities to grow, to create, and to savor moments of joy.
Acknowledge and Reframe Regret
The first step in moving past the feeling of missed opportunities is acknowledgment. Regret, when suppressed, lingers in the background of our thoughts. Reflect honestly on what you feel you missed and allow yourself to grieve those choices or
Then, gently reframe the story. Instead of thinking, “I wasted my chance,” consider, “I wasn’t ready then, but I am open now.” Life rarely follows a straight line, and sometimes what we perceive as lost time is actually preparation; gathering wisdom, resilience, and perspective that make us better equipped for the present.
The Power of “Now”
It’s easy to forget that the present moment is where life truly happens. Dwelling in the past keeps us anchored to moments that no longer exist, while over-fixating on the future can create anxiety. By learning to ground ourselves in the “now,” we can shift focus from what’s gone to what is still beautifully available. Small practices like mindful breathing, journaling, or walking outdoors with awareness help us reconnect with the richness of the present. This isn’t about ignoring the past; it’s about choosing to live fully today.
Pursuing Long Held Dreams
The good news is that it’s never too late to do some things you’ve always wanted. You may not pursue them in the exact way you once imagined, but you can adapt them to your current stage of life. If you always wanted to paint, sign up for a local art class or begin with a sketchbook at home. If you dream of traveling, you can start small: explore nearby towns, cultural events, or even virtual tours. If writing a book has long been in your heart, commit to just fifteen minutes a day. Taking small, actionable steps allows you to experience the fulfillment of doing, rather than longing.
Growth Has No Expiration Date
One of the biggest misconceptions about aging is that growth has an endpoint. In truth, personal growth is lifelong. Every day presents opportunities to learn something new, cultivate a new skill, or connect with others in deeper ways. Consider continuing education programs, volunteer opportunities, or community groups that align with your interests. The brain and spirit remain remarkably adaptable; curiosity is the key that keeps us vibrant.
Cultivating Joy in Everyday Life
While big dreams matter, joy is also found in simple daily practices. Notice the beauty in small things: a shared laugh, the taste of a favorite meal, the satisfaction of completing a project. Gratitude journaling can be powerful, helping you shift focus from what’s missing to what’s present and abundant. Over time, this practice rewires the mind to notice opportunity instead of absence.
Building a Future Without Regret
Finally, the best way to move beyond missed opportunities is to live intentionally going forward. Ask yourself regularly: What do I most want to experience right now? Then take steps, however small, to bring that vision into reality. Living with presence, openness, and courage ensures that future reflection will be filled with more moments of fulfillment and fewer lingering “what ifs.”
Reflecting on all these feelings over the past few weeks, I have made a list of the things I still want to experience, such as singing more often, writing and publishing more books, and enjoying places I want to visit. I also want to treasure the little things in my life. The joy of playing with my pets, gardening, spending time with the love of my life and just enjoying my surroundings.
I will make the trip to see my good friend from high school and spend some time remembering how young we were. After thinking it through, I do not regret my decisions in life. I wear these decisions like a badge of honor. Each made me a stronger, wiser person. In the end, life isn’t about the chances we didn’t take. It’s about the ones we choose to take today.
Robin Griffiths
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"Never regret yesterday.
Life is in you today and you
make your tomorrow."
- L. Ron Hubbard
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Robin Anne Griffiths is a published author, yoga practitioner, and mindfulness advocate based in Southwest Florida. She believes in the quiet strength of presence and the power of simple, intentional living.
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